Success Principle 54 – KEEP YOUR AGREEMENTS
Here is a quote you will like to keep at heart:
“Your life works to the degree you keep your agreements” (Werner Erhard)
It used to be that one’s word was one’s bond. Agreements were made and kept with a minimum of fanfare. People thought carefully about whether they could deliver on their promises before agreeing to anything. It was that important. Today, keeping one’s agreements seems to be a hit-or-miss affair.
More importantly, every agreement you make is ultimately with yourself. Even when you are making an agreement with someone else, your brain hears it and registers it as a commitment. You are making an agreement with yourself to do something, and when you don’t follow through, you learn to distrust yourself. The result is a loss of self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-respect. You lose faith in your ability to produce a result. You weaken your sense of integrity.
Let’s say that you tell your spouse you’re going to get up at 6.30 in the morning and do some exercise before going to work. But after 3 days of hitting the snooze alarm, your brain knows better than to trust you. Of course, you may think sleeping late is no big deal, but to your unconscious, it is a very big deal. When you don’t do what you say you will, you create confusion and self-doubt. You undermine your sense of personal power. It’s not worth it.
Dear listener, please know that your integrity and self-esteem are worth more than a million dollars. When you realize how important your integrity and self-esteem really are, you will stop making casual agreements just to get someone off your back. You won’t make agreements you don’t intend to keep. You will make fewer agreements, and you will do whatever it takes to keep them.
Now, Here are some tips for making fewer agreements and for keeping the ones you make:
• Make only agreements that you intend to keep
• Write down all the agreements you make.
• Communicate any broken agreement at the first appropriate time
• Give yourself time to think it over before making any new agreements.